The Music of the Speaking Voice

The balancing of the throat chakra is ultimately the balancing of the relationship between the throat and the heart.

Whenever there is balance, the heart has a chance to find its natural harmony within us.

The speaking voice is music.
The rhythm, cadence, tone, and even the space between the notes of our communication either create harmony—or dissonance—between two people. Through speech, we connect to our energy, our worth, and each other.

How we use our voice matters deeply.

I’ve been on both sides of this dynamic. I know what it feels like to fill the space with sound because silence felt unbearable. And I also know what it feels like to shrink, to swallow words, to let someone else set the rhythm of the room. Neither felt like freedom.

The voice is the queen of the body. She speaks on behalf of the needs and wants of the whole being.

Like every chakra, the throat can be excessive in its spinning or deficient in its expression. And this imbalance is reflected clearly in relationship.

“Chakra” means wheel—a vortex of energy. It distributes our life force. When that wheel is out of balance, the distortion is often heard before it is seen.

When the Throat Is Excessive

An excessive throat chakra often shows up as continuous speaking without true listening. There is little honoring of the musicality of relationship.

It feels one-sided.

One person dominates the rhythm, pace, and volume. The energy becomes controlled rather than shared. Over time, the other person feels smaller, less powerful, and less heard.

In this dynamic, one person’s excess often pairs with the other’s deficiency. It can become a “perfect” imbalance—one controls through speech, the other collapses into silence.

When we are around someone who is excessive in their throat energy, we may feel pressed upon or oppressed. We may feel powerless. Disconnection builds. Eventually, anger follows.

When the Throat Is Deficient

A deficient throat chakra feels like not having a voice at all.

When we are around someone who does not speak up, we may feel we must carry all the expression. We may become over-responsible, over-expressive, or over-accommodating. This too creates imbalance and disconnection.

Silence that comes from fear is just as disruptive to harmony as domination that comes from control.

Harmony Is Musical

True harmony in relationship is a back-and-forth dance.

It has rhythm.
It has tone.
It has breath between phrases.

The voice connects to the energy body without pushing it. There is space. There is listening. There is responsiveness.

This rhythm naturally invites authenticity to arise.

When someone insists on a particular pace, volume, or rhythm—whether in personal or business relationships—they are controlling the energetic field of that relationship.

And therein lies the opportunity for change.

We do not have to compete with an excessive voice by becoming excessive ourselves.
And a person with a deficient throat can learn to speak—even in the presence of someone louder. They can take the time to find their own music, their own cadence.

Sometimes the shift begins by simply speaking the truth about how the dynamic feels.

This is how we break the habit of excess or deficiency and rebalance the relationship.

Why Is This So Hard?

Because it’s scary.

It requires activating the voice.

It asks us to move out of the power struggle between the throat and the solar plexus—out of dominance or collapse—and rise, even a semitone, into the heart.

From the heart, we feel what is required in each moment.

The throat is not only for speaking. It also has listening ears. Balance comes when we are equally rooted in expression and in receptivity.

This balance—between speaking and listening—is the true work of the heart.

And when the heart leads, the queen no longer rules alone. She harmonizes.